The Christmas season is a time when we crave ritual. People go to church who usually stay away. We sit once again through Christmas pageants, replete with mangers, wise men, and angels heard on high. We sing the old Christmas songs yet again, and put up our trees with the good old ornaments that comfort us, perhaps reminding us of a time when our children were little, and the thrill of the season was evident on an hourly basis in their excited chatter.
Rituals are strange things and I devote a section to them in my book Seven Sacraments for Everyone:
“If we grow up with rituals, performing them day-in, day-out, there can be a tendency to simply go through the motions without too much thought. The danger then is that they become meaningless, losing their connection to the sacred. Creating new rituals in their place runs its own risks. As you surf through the various rituals offered on websites from all over the world, you can’t help feeling that there is something random in selecting any one of them, and any attempt at initiating a lasting ritual where none exists in a community or even in your family would be difficult, especially given the cynicism that is so much a part of the age we live in. If you stand apart from rituals, watching yourself performing them, it’s easy to feel self-conscious.
But the attempt should be made, and the way to make it work is to lose yourself in them wholeheartedly. Baseball great Yogi Berra was trying to explain hitting to some young players once—what to do at any given moment with their wrists, their arms, their legs. He was struggling to find the words and finally, he simply said, “Ah, just watch me do it.” Karen Armstrong has some similar advice for those searching for a religious experience: religious people find it hard to explain how their rituals and practice work—you have to just do it. It takes skill and hard work like anything, but you’ll find the truth of religion by practicing it. Like Yogi Berra’s swing, the Daoists saw religion as a “knack”—when you get the hang of the rituals you can get in touch with the deepest level of your being.
The best example of an effective American ritual is one that does battle with cynicism. It comes every Christmas when all over the country people watch the Christmas story with their families. Not the story of Mary and Jesus, but of Scrooge and Tiny Tim, retold in so many different ways on stages, in films or on television. The spirit of Christmas comes out in Dickens’ A Christmas Carol so perfectly: sympathy, generosity, companionship, parental love, marriage, songs, dancing, death, reconciliation, redemption—so many of the sacraments are there in that single short story and this annual ritual touches us all no matter how old we are. These are mythic characters and universal themes. Like the ancient Greeks watching the first dramas, we know the story backwards and forwards, but we still have a sense of catharsis and ekstasis in watching Scrooge’s transformation as he is reminded of the kindness and love he experienced as a younger man and discovers around him in the present. It is the defeat of cynicism at the hand of compassion.”
I had the pleasure of working with some excellent actors at Northern Stage Theatre in White River Junction, Vermont last month as they rehearsed A Christmas Carol, now playing until the end of December. In addition to what I wrote in my book, this play, and also the Nutcracker, that perennial favorite, is a time when young children in the community have the opportunity to act on stage with adults, which ultimately brings their parents into the theatre, and grandparents and aunts and uncles—it’s something that is harder and harder to do these days, to create a live-theatre experience that an entire community can be part of. But when you’re in it, either as actor or as audience member, it’s unforgettable. It’s grace. God bless us, everyone!